what are some simple steps to take then bond? to be more of a partner not employee? cuz I feel I sure do work hard enough, but I don't want to EVER be as consumed as him. Doing so, doesn't please him anyway!

also, how do I validate when h H is asking me things like... I bet you feel the same when he was discussing running away, etc. Or how long his list is about all the things he is overwhelmed with. All I could do was STFU and nod.

just say i understand your feelings, for wanting to run away... sometimes I feel like that too?

Yes, I completely understand your list of what needs to be done, can be overwhelming.

or when he says... you must be happy to not come home worried what we fill fight about next.... not sure about this one

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)