Originally Posted By: Portia

The DB lesson I learned on my previous thread:  If you are not ready to rock the boat or have your MLCer disappear resist any and all attempts to have a R talk.  Even when the MLCer insists.


Portia, I just realized that this is sort of what happened with my H too! When he returned from his 2 week PA with the Russian Tramp, we had a BIG fight and long R talk. But at that time, he told me don't worry everything will work out okay. A week later, I was doing our taxes, and found he had charged and sent her 2 bouquets of flowers, for $160 and $70, and blew up. What hurt me the most was that he had sent one right before and one right after my  60th birthday, but he had not given me anything, not even a card. I blew it, and tore into him. It was then that he told me that he has never loved me, not even on our honeymoon, that he is tired of pretending that he does, and is lying by showing me physical affection when he does not love me. And that he was going to decide whether to divorce me and marry the Tramp, or if we should just live together as friends. 

Oh Lord, this is all my fault, isn't it? Why couldn't I keep my big fat mouth shut? Do you think there is still a chance for me? Is this also a clear message to me that he is done? 

What do you think? I guess I should ask my DB coach about this. I am so heartbroken again. What a stupid old woman I am frown


Linda

Me 65, Ex 64
M 38 y
2 adult S, 4 G-Kids
MLC 11/07
BD 12/09
D 3/14
Dating nice guy 7/14
Engaged to nice guy 12/17