CB, I'm just finishing going through your old thread and wanted to post an observation, specifically regarding your counselling.
It is hard for people not to try to guess the intention of the therapists. Some will simply "do their job", while others might include the participants by explaining the process.
When there are two people in a session, it is hard to be a fly on the wall, and not do anything but listen while the therapist is working with the other party.
I think that you do a good job working with the therapist directly, but I also think that maybe you are focusing too much on what YOU feel the message from your therapist, to your W, is all about. That message is for HER to understand and figure out and may have nothing to do what you are thinking. Of course, you COULD be right in what you think the message is. Yet that remains between your therapist and your W. You will only know anything at the next session and how the therapist continues to work with your W.
So again, and I'm saying this somewhat tongue in cheek, try not to do the therapists job. Your role in the MC is to work on you and to work on the M and anything that is specifically between the therapist and your W... is between the therapist and your W. You just have the privilege of being allowed to observe... but you haven't been given the green light to participate, interfere, or otherwise be more involved in that, specific work...
