The reason I posted quickly was specifically regarding feedback on how yesterday went. Your posts suggested you were stuck in getting validation from your H.
I don't think that yesterday was "bad" and won't put it up against a DB framework of "right or wrong". It is simply how yesterday went. Although I would go so far as to say that perhaps you may not repeat yesterday as far as your actions being dictated by your feelings.
Again, while you say you are focused on work, then you will KNOW that you were focused on your work when you don't wonder what your H thought about your work day. Rather, you will be able to think, "Today, work went well. I had a couple of things regarding clients or specific duties that I could have done better and there are some things that I did really great and I am so proud of myself..." and then... "and a bonus is, I think that my boss seemed to appreciate what I did, too"
Hope that makes sense.
Regarding your H and his "words" regarding how this weekend looks, for him. This is where the business / personal enmeshment occurs for you. If he were your boss, or even your partner, you would simply see this as your boss giving you information. Nothing more, nothing less.
