It is important that you continue to do what is best for you and your children. And that includes getting information from a lawyer.
As far as giving her the divorce, that is what she asked for. It could continue as it is for many more months. I think as some point, you have to do something different.
As you said, she can stop it at any point and you told her the door is always open for R.
I think your actions are fair and honest, and that you are hearing her, giving her what she wants, and lovingly letting her go.
The ball is in her court now.
Please dont let this derail you path. Stay strong, sweetie.
