Jeff751 - so when he visits I act like were still married and offer to make dinner for him and the kids and invite him into my home? To act like he didn't just return from a 10 day trip to Europe with OW and that's probably all he has to talk about?
I thought if I just act the part and not be bitter or accusatory or angry, and just ignore the OW, he may see the family togetherness and miss it.
He may see how much his D needs him in her life and that he's missed so much in her recovery.
IDK. I'm confused as to embrace his visit or ... go DARK. Let him know I'm busy and made plans and for him to just go and do stuff with the kids.
Confused. I have nothing but love for him and have always told him that. I have been blaming and accusatory in the past and he hates to even talk to me because the texting war gets out of control. So 180 would be to embrace the visit. He knows I love him and never wanted this.
He also tells be all the time that the OW wasn't the reason he left...but was immediately in relationship with her.
Ranting... give me advice.
M: 49 H: 49 S23 D24 (disabled from car accident 6 yrs ago) M: 21yrs BD: 1 month after D home from hospital (after 6 months) D: 3/11/11 Moved: 10/11/11 to FL for SCI recovery X: engaged w/OW
