PM - Don't take this the wrong way and I hope you don't take offense but I was half expecting your answers to say that when I asked you the question. You know why, it's exactly the way I answered it when it was first asked of me several months ago.
Question you need to ask yourself is: Do you love your W? Forget obligations and duty and all that. Would you run through hell with gasoline drenched shorts on for her today?
Hold on one second...I don't think you can answer that question until YOU answer the next question:
What does loving another person really mean to you? No quoting anyone else, in your own words. You don't even have to write it here, just make sure you can answer it.
Through my journey I realized that I did in fact love my W unconditionally. Sadly after 20 years together I hadn't figured that out and many of the things I did were out of obligation and I'm sure that showed in my actions. How could she feel loved if I were doing things because I felt I should do them and not doing them out of love?
At first I had never thought about what love meant to me or what it even was. I came to this site reeling because I feared being alone, I was completely codependent on my W, I had vowed to never be D'd (dad left us when I was 3 and I promised myself I would never allow that to happen to my family), and I wanted to "win" and save my M like the guys in the movies do.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
