MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

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I will NOT correspond with him at all and I'm sticking to my plans of working on my goals for me. Quite excited because I keep thinking of my class reunion next year. Looking forward to my new transition.

However in thinking of the here and now, I can't help but start to get anxiety attacks when I think of his visit next weekend. I will NOT be seeing him or part taking in the visit with our kids. Sad. But I don't know how... to be his friend or how to be his X?

And I'm also overthinking his visit and telling our kids all about his trip (which is understandable) but also including the OW as if all this is ok with our kids. I know they are 20/21 and its there relationship with him. I feel betrayed by them too when I think of their acceptance of OW.

I don't know. It's inevitable that they will accept and move on with their dad. Possibly even marry her in the future. Why is it so easy for them to accept and I struggle?

Have there been any stories of WAS that marry the OW and eventually come back around? Is that really possible by the LBS? I understand with MLC to maintain a friendship relationship...But with a WAS how do you do that with so much bitterness, hate, betryal, etc. At lease the MLC has the excuse of its a phase, its his depression, he'll go through the full circle. I feel the WAS knows excatly what they are doing and that they don't care about the consequences and are determined to move on without you because if they think about you their wall will come crumbling down. Their pride gets in the way.

I know focus on me...either way I will be in a better place. Just feeling the anxiety of his visit...

Any suggestions when he comes?