You said a word that took me a long time to work through and Mach would likely tell you I'm still struggling with it so I'm curious...
Why do you feel obligated to love your wife?
Where does this obligation, this duty to stand and love her no matter what, come from?
I feel that's my job as a husband...that's what husbands are supposed to do. That's what I promised I would do, and just because she changes her mind doesn't mean it changes who *I* am.
I also believe that's what God calls me to do.
But I haven't been gritting my teeth angry about what I think God wants me to do. My core beliefs, that sense of duty, that sense of fulfilling promises, staying true to my word, being an honorable man and doing what I think is honorable - no matter the situation - is what has driven me, for the most part.
Now that obligation doesn't mean I am a doormat. Loving her can't take precedence over loving my children, for example. And as I stated previously, loving her means respecting her wishes as much as I disagree with or don't like them.
Originally Posted By: Spartan
Is it an obligation to just your W or is it also tied into keeping your family intact?
Keeping the family intact is just an extra incentive, not a main driver.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
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