If you did not want D and to give more time, not sure that you want to give more time, but could you separate w/o D?
I guess what I see is your W needs time to figure out her stuff still.
You have to decide what you want and how much time you will wait for that, knowing there is no guarantee that your W will come to working on her stuff.
I feel for you. I can see saying that you have had enough and need to move on and then move on, filing or not.
Maybe that would wake her up, but you would have to do it for you. Now she would be the LBS...
I don't see you remaining healthy as things are from your words and possibly getting worse for you as things stand.
I wish you well.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
