I know what my 180's are because my W and i actually sat down last week for the first time since BD and told me some of the things that led us to this point.

1. I was too controlling. She would tell me she was going out with friends and she would be home at a certain time. If she was late i would call her and chew her out for always being late.
I have already stopped doing that even before BD.

2. I am miserable at my current job and i would take it out on her when i got home from work. Very bad thing for me to do, but i continued even though i knew it was wrong.
I have sent numerous resumes in to different companies. I need to set more career goals for myself.

3. I expected her to be my only emotional support system. I rarely ever went out with my friends and seemed to always want to sit at home and pout when she wanted to go out with hers.
I have started reconnecting with some of my old friends again and have had a good time with them.


Me: 41 W: 36
M:9 yrs
Together: 12 yrs
Kids S7 S4
BD: 01/13
W filed 5/13
D final 8/13