I agree with RH. If she's not ready to "friend" you on her own, then it's pressure.

I would not push the FB issue unless it was a deal breaker for me.

My W is active on FB and I'm not even signed up. I think it's helping her find who she is and who she wants to be. So even though my mind has sometimes wondered what's going on, I've never snooped or said a word about it.

One of the things W told me at BD was that she wanted to be independent and do things on her own. I know she can do this without leaving the M, if I allow her. It seems to be working for us.

Funny thing is that recently she has started to show and tell me more about things her and her friends are posting.

If she's determined to hook up with a tat-boy I know I can't stop it. All I can do is continue to make myself the irresistible H she's hung with for almost 30 years.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl