Kate's right JP, you have to be comfortable with feeling them, knowing they don't define you and they will pass. But in being comfortable with them you can allow yourself to follow them back to the source. That's where the real discomfort sets in as you often have to face people, events, feelings you've tried to bury.

My controlling comes from my mother needing (for her reasons) me to appear perfect to the outside world. If I didn't measure up I was punished, so I attempted to control myself, events, other people so I could appear perfect. A defense mechanism to get me through a tough time, but I no longer need it. I can let it go.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss