Hmm... good question. T did not recommend who goes first. And reaching out is also a matter of definition. I've been being more "in the same room" with her, telling stories about this recent trip (we had to abort takeoff in Newark, for example), texting her about dinner being on the stove, etc.
T stressed that I do what I want and react as I want, what is mine is mine, and what is hers is hers.
We will, just she and I, surely be alone together sometime in the next weeks. I think it makes sense to ask about the house facade renovation, and from there go into the spiel about if we can't be good, we shouldn't be together any longer. Yes, that is the assertive thing to do and it seems like a plan.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
