Okay - I just saw my therapist - we worked on setting boundaries, practicing reactions to intrusions. She demonstrated possible responses to intrusions from me (I played my wife, and she played me), ranging from mild "I did this just because I wanted to" to more assertive "how about I do things my way and you do them yours?", various flavors of pushback. I had had difficulties visualizing such responses, and so she showed me.
She also, as I am a gentle person at heart, suggested that I look into positive reinforcement of desired behaviors strategies also, such as those suggested in "don't shoot the dog", which I have now ordered, and also ignore/deflect/return the attack strategies.
Good and helpful stuff. The next appointment is unclear, as I travel again in a few weeks, again for a whole month - jeepers, life out of a suitcase.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
