I just wanted to stop by and offer my support and perhaps chime in on some of your points in your previous post.
First off, the fact that your W blames you for everything is straight out of the WAW script. You can acknowledge and validate her feelings, but you're right to think that you both had a hand in reaching this point.
As for your big question, the pay stub, I think there are a few things to think about that might help you reach an informed decision. First, why don't you want to show her? Are you concerned that she will start spending more irresponsibly if she knows how much she has to "work with"? or are you trying to secret some money away for later?
On the other hand, are you concerned that letting her see how much money you make will make her more secure about what she will get in a D, and thus give her a sense of confidence to move things along more quickly?
As you say, she will find out anyway in discovery, but if you don't want her to know because you need to buy time or you don't want to add fuel to her fire, perhaps it's a good thing to make her wait.
Just realize, though, that this will likely make her resent you, so it's a matter of weighing the benefits that you stand to gain against the ill will you'll almost certainly engender by refusing to give her the information.
Good luck to you. Oh, and "too little, too late" is the WAW's line, not the LBSs. We believe that any small gesture is relevant and meaningful at any time. In fact, it's what most of us are praying and hoping for. So if you still want to have a chance at R, I'd start by eliminating those thoughts toot sweet .
Not a 2x4. Let's call it a friendly reminder.
M41 W42 M 12 T 15 S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2 BD 1/2/2013 Living as roommates Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13
or are you trying to secret some money away for later? 