oh wait... when he was shouting at me, I did ask if he'd like me to pull over so that he could get out. he reminded me that the car was 1/2 his... so I said, OK.. I will pull over and let myself out...is this kind of the same thing as saying don't speak to me like that, bond?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
ok.. so now he just texted me... "sorry for upsetting you, I do know you try to do the right thing"
I just remembered too, that I was trying to say to h that I dont get "mad" at him.. I get upset for him being "mad" at me.
Here is a silly example of his admitted "carry over" from yesterday that he was MAD at.... I refused to shake a clients hand yesterday because it was quite greasy. H didn't realize earlier that I had joked earlier with the client about him using a rag to review the vehicle as to not get it dirty. Regardless, H thinks I should have shook his hand. Disrespectful/old school. Now, I see h's point.. I agree... but to be MAD at me? to "carry it over" and remember it? That's just screwy!!
Should I respond to H?... I'd like to say something about the handshake... or shall I pretend I didn't get it and was exhausted and fell asleep?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
after a half hour, I replied "thanks, I appreciate you telling me".... sure hope that doesnt make me seem hopelessly wrapped and available to him. My male friend seems to think so,
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
I am trying so hard to detach/dim . Still learning how to be dim and not be baited by his pursuit to ensure I am still "there". But, I feel an apology was worthy of a reply. My friend thinks that my reply sounded hopelessly wrapped and that he can probably see through my attempts to be aloof. That I sound like I really want him to care enough to apologize.
I have to work with him again today and tomorrow.
I want to be the woman he respects and appreciates.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
oh also... I have forgotten how to validate. I am not sure what to say, when H is asking me things like... I bet you feel the same when he was discussing running away, etc. Or how long his list is about all the things he is overwhelmed with. All I could do was STFU and nod. Is there a link on validation? or good advice? TX !
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Hi KD... no, I actually do think "work".. and stay in "work" mode,
But, you are right... I need to respect myself!
Can you give me advise on validating? Also, can you read my sitch from yesterday, and see if I handled it in the DB way?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
ok.. tx bond. New sitch: Normally h & I purchase our inventory together. Well, he just informed me that he will go on his own tomorrow, as Saturday is a busy client day (we have NO appts!!)???. He then threw in the mix that he will leave a vehicle there and drive a diff one back, leaving one there so that he can possibly catch a ride back with a friend sometime on the way to a cottage. He even said, that if I go tomorrow, then he wont... he will stay behind as he feels it will be a busy client day here.
Now my thinking is that that is his point... so that he can entertain this cottage and have a vehicle there to retrieve at his convenience.
Would it be alright to say... I understand the whole cottage attraction if that is your goal, but it doesn't make sense for us to leave a vehicle there, when we normally go together and drive 2 away? This way it allows him to feel he can be honest with me, if that is the case.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
