A few weeks ago, my mom was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer. Yesterday, she had surgery and was informed that she probably has 6 month to a year to live.
Tad, I am so very sorry.
XW has been calling and texting our boys wanting to find out information. I told them to tell her that if she wanted to know anything, she could call me. She never did. Instead, she told our boys that I was just playing control games. I can't seem to win.
I kind of wish you didnt put your sons in the middle like that, Tad.
She mentioned three times to me that she wants to be my friend. How can she expect me to be her friend after what she did?
We did talk a little about "us" and when I asked her exactly what happened, she said that it "just wasn't working." I seem to get a different response everytime that question is asked. It was "working" up until she went on that dating site.
I'm guessing the "different" responses were variations of the same thing. No matter, why do you keep asking? I would guess it's because you are hoping for a response that makes you feel better. Aint gonna happen, T.
Anyways, it was a good conversation and I enjoyed talking to her, but she is still in deep in Replay I think.
Who cares where she's at? You have waaayyy more important things to think about.
I almost get the feeling that she feels a little remorse, but I could be wrong.
What if she does, T? It doesnt change anything, really, right?Anyways, when I called her, it sounded like she was sleeping. My boys said she always sounds like that.
Still talking to your kids about her. Not a good idea. She is still their mother, Tad. Not your place to say anything at all about her to them.
She blamed my mother for cutting her out of her life. It is so funny how everyone else seems to be at fault except her.
Cant be her, Tad. Then what would that mean?
Tad, it is at times like this when you realize how short life is and how precious. It really is time for you to let go of the past and start to live in the present. Cherish the time with your mom. Make memories with her and your sons.
There might not ever be a reason good enough for you for why your wife left, T. Are you going to continue to wait for one? She was unhappy, in crisis and she left. There really neednt be any other reason. It doesnt matter why. It happened. And you can continue to go round and round trying to figure it out and her out, or you can get to living. Your choice, T. But, I'm thinking that it's time for you to figure it out. Time's a wastin.' Do you really want to be here a year from now asking the same things? Live your life, Tad or it will live you.
