My mother is dying. XW wants to be my friend.

[Papa4Life]

Hi Tad, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Keep hoping, but in the meantime, make every moment you have with her a memorable one.

Not to sound morbid, but they say that a D is something like losing a loved one, the only difference is that your X is still around, thus making it even harder to let go for once and for all.

I won't tell you to "just let it go" and try to forgove your XW. I mean, who am I to try to tell you what you should and shouldn't be feeling? I wouldn't even have the audacity to try and do that.

But what I could say, if you'll forgive a bit of meddling, is that you should try not to let these lingering feelings for her interfere with the time you've been blessed to still have with your mom. Don't let that be tainted by her crassness or disregard for your difficult situation. You've got more important things to be concerned about.

Then again, I'm just some anonymous schmuck on a website doling out advice based on nothing but gut instinct, so take it for what it's worth. But whatever happens, I'll be praying for you and your mom (and, yes, your XW too) tonight. Stay strong.