Jesus, Accuracy, why isn't your last post a sticky at the top of this forum alongside sandi's? I've never seen this point distilled and expressed in such an effective way?

BKS, while I've not read through much of your sitch, in this instance, I urge you to give this last post from Accuracy (an apt username if I've ever heard one) some serious thought. This is very good advice.

M41 W42
M 12 T 15
S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2
BD 1/2/2013
Living as roommates
Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13