I think you are a very wise man to see a lawyer and find out the ins and outs of what you need to do and how it will affect you, your wife and your children. One thing for sure, her life as she knows it now will definitely change. It will not be as easy as she has it now and her current position will need to be stepped up and she will need to find a job that pays a good salary in order to live out in the cold, cruel world as we all know it to be. It's not going to be pretty.
You've given her plenty to think about and now the ball is in her court, i.e., whether to work on the relationship or hit the road.
Do what is right for you and your children. They've been living in limbo, just as you have, for a long time. They need to know where their parents are heading, i.e., reconciling or separating. You've given it your all and in the days ahead, I truly believe the answers will present themselves to you. Please be patient just a little bit longer.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
