Right now my instict is to pull back when she leaves. To give her some room but not ignore her if she reaches out. To not initiate contact but to be available. Different from before this "visit" but safe enough for me to not get hurt by petty expectations of "if" she responds to me or not.
This is where I am at also.
I HAVE to start on me, yet one of my 180 is to give W attention that I never did. This is a hard balance for me.
For me I am putting finding myself and fixing myself first.
My W will come second, but I will be kind, thoughtful, and listen to her.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
