"My counselor makes it seem like it's OK to "check in", so to speak, with my W about her current position on our R."

IMHO, you shouldn't do that. That puts all the power in the R on her. You need to take that power back.

Act 'As If' you've moved on.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER