It's about time you started fighting back and stopped being so passive when she accuses you of something.
I can tell you that if you put your foot down, look at her square in the eye and tell her that you will not be talked to like that any longer and pack up her stuff to show you mean business.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.