the journey from abandonment to healing by susan anderson
Without delving deeper, I think that a lot of what you describe here, are patterns of repeated behavior, and maybe it would be worth it to take a look into it....
I'm reading that right now. It is very good. (I hope we're allowed to talk mention that here.)
Added to the list! I'm so far behind on books...done with my MBA in December!
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.