Glad to hear you've got the financial end of things taken care of. Far too many women here, in an effort to appease their WAS, end up shooting themselves in the foot financially.
As for how best to win your H back - at this point, I think setting firm boundaries is important. He can't have you both, and what's sauce for the gander is sauce for the goose. He needs to realize that you won't always be there waiting for him, that you may move on to another man. NOT suggesting that you date - but it's sometimes a good idea to give him the notion that you MIGHT meet another guy. Right now all your behaviors have just suggested you are waiting there as his plan B.
You need to start going out, being mysterious about your whereabouts, take a vacation weekend with "friends". Flowers may start to mysteriously appear with the card removed. Fancy underwear hanging from the bathroom rod to dry. Give him the gift of realizing what it would be like to lose you to another man NOW, BEFORE you actually start dating.
