I let myself feel them and then I begin to ask why I would feel this way? Would I feel this way if these things were happening to a friend? Why would my first reaction be anger? What am I afraid of? Usually my first reaction is anger, because then I don't have to look at me. When I look at me, then it is low self esteem (bad mother bad wife...which leads to lashing out). Then I say are you really a bad mother wife? Why? Which eventually leads me to understand the cycle. Can't say it is the same cycle for you, but to minimize these feelings or dismiss any of them is wrong. Own them instead
