I really think that we can make it, Girl

[RosaLinda]

Here are the Cliff Notes of our discussion.

If ever I feel like I will blow up if I don't say anything, then don't hold it in. Say something constructive. Plan it out ahead of time and deliver it at the best time. 
Tell: My needs. Ask for: Hugs, hand holding, head/back scratching. More as time goes on. Explain that I don't know how long I can go on or what I will do if the near complete lack physical touch with my W continues. 

Think about all of her possible responses. (best to worst) How will I respond?

Before giving the Reality Talk, I can start to initiate simple touch, and monitor the results. Go slowly. Thank her for positive reactions.

Thanks for sharing your crib notes FY!  Thinking of all the possible responses is a terrific idea. I had my first DB coaching session last week, and I told the coach Chuck that the lack of physical contact was killing me, and that I had thrown my arms around my H and told him I missed physical affection and sex, and he stood there like a statue and answered "well I don't." So Chuck said no hugs but I could start touching him casually, a hand on the arm. At first my H acted like I'd burned him but now, after a week, he has touched my shoulder twice. How stupid that would sound to anyone who has not been through this!

Did you try the simple touch, or go for the whole "needs" speech? How did she react?

We're still talking about taking an Anniversary trip at the end of June. Also odd for someone who's not in love, right? I wonder how it will go. Last year we did an overnighter at a B&B only because it was paid for and was a "use it or lose it" situation. It was a little uncomfortable and of course no hanky panky or butt spanky.  

Your W sounds as if she's coming around, waking up out of her fog a bit. The end of June is a long time from now. Ut the fact that she's planning the trip sounds very positive. I hope you guys have a wonderful time together. My H and I went away this weekend to a family event and he solved the hanky panky question by inviting his elderly mother to share our room. You shouldn't have that problem at least!