G'day P. Both books are worth reading but DR is the newer of the two and is probably more solution based. Finish DB and you will get the basics.
You will get great advice here, it is worth logging in as often as you can to share your feelings and read other posts. You will learn a lot and not feel as alone. I know reconciliation is not promised to anyone here, but I can tell you that without the things I learned here, I am pretty sure I would not have R'd with my H.
