"I Love you but love her too"....WHAT?

[Notlikingthis]

My H put an offer in on the house and it was accepted. Now what? Guess he's going to move out and live there with the gold digging s!^+. He asked me to do something that I knew would put me in a bad position with the house and I refused. That started World War III. I had a major melt-down and said a few things that I probably shouldn't have but I had to stand my ground. I wasn't threatening nor did I tell him that he was out of his mind. I told him that I needed to protect myself and that started it! I'm sure he felt like he lost control of the conversation and hoped that I would immediately agree to his request. He made threats that he would file for a separation but then later said that it could be undone. ????? At one point I told him that we were both too angry to be talking to each other about this and that I was going to leave. He told me that he was leaving for the weekend but then didn't make a move. He just kept threatening and badgering me. I stood up to leave and he followed me. Long conversation and long story short it ended with both of us in tears and a compromise that was acceptable to both of us. I can't believe that this is happening! I thought I was doing pretty well until that conversation. Now I feel like I'm back at square one.

Since then he's been quite attentive yet still on his mission to leave. I think it will be easier for me to DB when he is gone. He said that he has this emotional attachment to me. Then he said, "You have no idea what this will do to me". Being without you isn't going to be easy...we have a connection that I don't want to lose." I wish now that I wouldn't have said it but in response to that I said YOU are making that decision, just like you allowed yourself to start the relationship with XYZ. When he told me that he "has to do this" I told him that it seemed like he was obsessed with her (in a calm and concerned voice, of course). He didn't deny it but maybe he just didn't respond because he was so angry at the comment. He has the nerve to act like a victim? I should have showed some empathy but my emotions were out of control at that point and I couldn't help it.

If I had more time to come here and read and post I might be further along in this. I don't know what to say or do. I take the book with me when I leave the house and keep reading and re-reading the parts about doing what works and changing what doesn't. At this point, I'm convinced that nothing will work except for him to leave and see for himself that what he's doing isn't really what he wants.

I'm lining up the bags of popcorn and lounge chairs if anyone wants to join me. I need a little company to help me get things back into perspective.