Not confused...trying to keep hope alive!!!

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Just had my first counseling session which couldn't come at a better time. I am going to talk toy boys tonight and advise them in an age appropriate way of what the truth is. They need to know. The damage is continual, and I feel it is time for them to hear my side. Clearly H is gone, and I can't allow him to further the lies any longer...besides he told my kids I knew OW, which again has played me as a bad parent. I tried the boundaries with the kids before explicitly saying this was a no no, and he did it anyway. I have no legal actions I can take. So the truth is all I have as a consequence. I will state the facts without character assassination. I have tried the high road and I think my kids were slowly figuring things on their own anyway. Sorry, but this is all I got right now.