My counselor makes it seem like it's OK to "check in", so to speak, with my W about her current position on our R. I would really like to know why my wife hasn't yet filed for D. Would there be any non-pushy way to ask this?

Or...should I let it be as it may and work on detachment? I think I already know...

Me:38, Wife:36
M:8
T:13
No kids
Bomb:3/10/13
W moved out:3/30/13
Started D paperwork: 10/14/13
D final: 12/30/13
To a future of love and happiness...