22nd Anniversary was yesterday. I had flowers delivered to W at her work with a nice note. She texted me a thankyou for the flowers and that it had her crying.
After we both returned from work, at home, she gave me a quick kiss and thankyou. We first went to a hotel overlooking the Pacific coast for drinks. The place has a fabulous view (and very expensive drinks!). We then went out to eat at an Italian place that she wanted to try.
We had a nice evening. Throughout we had conversations about normal day-to-day stuff -- no relationship talk. My W has come to grips with some things, but not all. She is getting happier about our new life in CA. She is still unhappy about her new job and lack of many friends.
I did not give her the ring, and I'm glad I didn't because it would have been too much pressure. My DB coach told me a few things that I find useful to recall:
1. continue to DB, don't slack up, maintain GAL, 180's, and everything. 2. in conversations about issues between us, use exploratory questions to let her come to conclusions. Don't try to fix her or tell her what to do because I would be blamed for it.
Today I went flying again, I'm now using my W's instructor because mine is on a 3-week vacation. I'm getting much better at landing. Still need some more practice.
