Going In Circles

[Fartiltre]

Hi SIS

Thanks for your kind post in my thread! I will keep the hope and so should you!

I am not a VET and please keep that in mind! I hope one of them will drop by soon and when they do I am quite certain that they will ask you:
1.
To read Sandi2 list (AS wrote this – I know) – but this is important! Read it every day for the next month.
2.
About why she dropped the Bomb. Have you sorted this out? (Don’t ask W!)
3.
What are your 180s. What have you changed? Work on you?
If you have sorted out the reason for the B you will have an excellent list to start with. Then add all the things you have thought of yourselves over the last years. Things you should have done! Things you would have done, if only…..? Be concrete, prioritize and then do it and keep doing it! Consistence rules above all!
4.
Act-as-if. It seems like you are doing this already.
5.
GAL

I know AS has posted and if you add the list above to his post you will have somewhere to start!
Listen to the VETS! They do know what they are talking about! I you can’t identify a VET than look on the number of posts from the person and you will get it!

W has been saying some strange things to me the last week or so.

Be specific! This won’t get you any advice! Write the things she says!

I am also a bit confused as to whether or not i should not contact her at all at this point. Should I go dark or should i try and initiate small conversations via text at this point. We still need to have contact regarding our kids.

I wouldn’t go dark – not completely! VETS always state that LRT is Last Resort.
I went “grey” for some weeks at first, gave her space and all of that but since then I have slowly increased communication.

I also stated that I have currently moved in to my sisters for the time being, but have been reading elsewhere that maybe i should have stayed home for the time being? Was this a horrible mistake on my part?

Horrible is a very harsh word! I stayed at home. AS have given you a lot of reasons for this and I might add that the chance of her seeing 180s, act-as-if and so on will be bigger if you live under the same roof. You will also find a lot of post that tells that chance of R almost demands separation and furthermore it is rough. You don’t get your own space!
So I guess there’s no clear answer to this! Pro’s and con’s! You might as well get used to this