New to this ...

[steveh27]

Well the OM's son plays on the same team. We have to travel for the weekend to this tournament. Not sure if OM will actually go or if he will just send his family. But it will not be a great experience at all. Although I'm not going to stay home and miss seeing my sons games. I am hoping that the OM doesn't go and gives us peace, but either way the OM's W will be there. I think I mentioned she called my W the other day and told her in short to stay away or she would make her life miserable. Just a cluster f in general, and to handle it gracefully will be a miracle.

Any suggestions how to handle this?

Btw I found the section about the last resort after the LRT paragraph is. It's in the infidelity chapter. I guess thats where Im already at though. Im not initiating anymore, going about my business with kids, we have occasional talk about if the dog was fed etc. I do not call anymore or text. I see her in the morning before going to work - when I get home from work for dinner with the family - if Im lucky the kids have stuff where i can leave. At night she goes to the bedroom - I hang with the kids downstairs watching TV or doing homework - then I go to the bedroom ... usually after she's half asleep or soundly sleeping. That is my day. Today though she initiated the R stuff - I dont think going dark on that is the way to go, but I can back off on the emotional push button statements. Although it seemed like those got through to some level ... but it was wasn't from a mean or angry heart so maybe it was better accepted. I get that she may need to lose what she has before she will accept her actions right now. So maybe that needs to happen.