You have really grown, Crimson, I just hope your W has grown as well.
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but I am not putting my mother in front of my XW and son. If she opts to hang on to her ill feelings, that is on her.
Good job! I was beginning to think you had never heard a word I said. I think I may have told you a long time ago that this can be hard on moms. I have been in those shoes and can identify with how your mother feels. However, as you may recall, I REALLY identified with how your W felt all those years, so take my word for whatever it may be worth....you are doing the right thing. And when your W sees you putting her in her rightful first place, she will come quicker to not harbor any ill feelings toward your folks.....if your mother don't get too ugly. Mother will finally come around, once she realizes that she will lose you and her grandson by trying to make you choose her over W. It will take that old four letter word......t.i.m.e.
Really happy for you and hope with all my heart things will continue to go well.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I think I may have told you a long time ago that this can be hard on moms. I have been in those shoes and can identify with how your mother feels. However, as you may recall, I REALLY identified with how your W felt all those years, so take my word for whatever it may be worth....you are doing the right thing. And when your W sees you putting her in her rightful first place, she will come quicker to not harbor any ill feelings toward your folks.....if your mother don't get too ugly. Mother will finally come around, once she realizes that she will lose you and her grandson by trying to make you choose her over W. It will take that old four letter word......t.i.m.e.