Less lonely, not scared..low on patience

[JBolt]

Thank you snodderly and MM, I know this board isn't about people getting divorced (though that does happen a lot, even with appearently well exectued and consistant DB'ing). At first I saw the principles behind DB as a way to get my wife back (duh, that's what everyone thinks at first). I see the efforts I've made to break my co-dependence and focus on my feelings and needs very differently now. I'm still not there yet 100%, but boy am I feeling the momentum.

The mediator contacted me yesterday to see if STBXW had talked with me about our few outstanding issues since Monday. I reported as before that we really don't initiate any communications. The mediator sounded a little exasperated and said this had only happened very rarely in the past and wasn't sure how to proceed. She is a lawyer, but not MY lawyer or W's lawyer, so she really needs us to tell her what each of us will need, expect, and settle for in the divorce.

In any event, I told her I would contact W. I sent W a very neutral and business-like txt saying the mediator needs to hear from her at her earliest convenience, we are scheduled to go before the judge in less than a month and I want both of us to have plenty of time to review and agree with the settlement. I would like this to be done as cordially and quickly as possible. She txted back "Ok". So we will see. She's such a strange bird now, it's impossible for me to understand or predict her reactions.

Oh, and I got a dog yesterday!!! So excited.

J.