"Am I anger yes a bit. I have not said any of those things to her. "
It doesn't matter if you say it to her. If you hold those things in you and they change and fester into continued anger and resentment, then they will come out in your actions towards her.
"I have been try understand her feeling but how can that happen if she does not want to speak with me."
You don't need to speak to her to UNDERSTAND her. Sometimes understanding is just respecting her wishes to figure things out on her own.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.