Gabby your post is spot on. A month ago after we got back from family vacation she told me she felt smothered again. At the time she blamed a comment I made about concert tickets she had purchased for the reason why she felt smothered again. So I'm trying to give her space and trying to be careful with my actions and words to not come across smothering again to her. But the reality in a healthy marriage you're correct I should be able to ask. we are not in a healthy state again. So yeah I am trying to not poke a bee hive with a stick. I just beat myself up to much. (ACOA issues) and need to let go.
