I am also a bit confused as to whether or not i should not contact her at all at this point. Should I go dark or should i try and initiate small conversations via text at this point. We still need to have contact regarding our kids.


Should i just leave it at that?

She is now telling her friends about us getting D. We lived in a small town so this will spread like wildfire. It gets hard when friends call you up to ask you what happened.

How does everyone else handle this?


Me: 41 W: 36
M:9 yrs
Together: 12 yrs
Kids S7 S4
BD: 01/13
W filed 5/13
D final 8/13