Crazy little thing called MLC

[AJM]

GG, sometimes it is nice to have somebody to talk to who understands. Be careful not to confuse that emotion though, yeah?

Raine,

Any thoughts on that and if there is more I can do? I figure when he does show up, I can be nice and talk to him, but also when he starts to engages the boys, I go do something else. I'll stay off FB and slow response to calls/texts. I won't iniate any kind of contact or consoling.

Does that work for you? If so, keep doing it. If not, then change it. I don't think it's wrong or right, but it is certainly very kind of you to listen. Shows a lot about your character - in a good way.

As for what GG said about feeling like it's a medical procedure like the dentist. I laughed at that. I've been there. I know that numb feeling. It happens to many of us I think. And it's not a bad thing, but for me it was more like I didn't know what to feel and eventually shut down. For a while. It happens. It can be part of the process. But if you get to the part where you don't want him back, then you have to ask yourself why you think about them or want to talk to them. Or if you want to talk to them. When you can honestly answer that question, you'll be on better and more solid ground, in my experience.

I don't think you should listen to your MIL per se. I think you should listen to you, Raine. You're the one that has to live with your choices. Not me, not her and not anyone else. And you'll know when you've made your choice. It'll be evident to everyone else as well. I suspect your MIL is in awe of you and what you do. I also suspect she sympathizes with you and understands how hard it is for you.

As for me, I think you're doing wonderfully. You show a lot of grace under pressure and your kids and H are very lucky to have you. You set a great example. Don't let anyone tell you differently

Peace,
AJ