we own a business - pt 9 ... its about me!

[MrBond]

"I feel I already tried "allowing" him time alone..."

No you "expect" a positive response back when you do this. You have to just let him get through it on his own.

"I am trying to let go... for me. But yes, in a sense of weakness & humility. I give up. I am giving him to God to heal. And, me too."

Giving him to God is a good thing. Again, your problem is that you are expecting something for you in return.

"As for dumping the business... again, I am confused ... thought I needed to look out for me? Do things for me?"

Of course you have to do things for you. However, getting rid of your livelihood is pretty extreme. Plus if you want to save your M, do you really think that dumping a business on a guy who says he is overwhelmed is a good thing?

"Today his list of things he was overwhelmed with came out... so I listened and nodded and validated."

What you did wasn't validation. It was trying to fix his problem. You can empathize with him but not say that you will be there to help him fix things.

"He questions about how I fill my day, as he feels so overwhelmed and thinks I do very little, as a partner."

Did he literally say this word for word? No paraphrasing. I just want to know if he said those specific words to you just now.

"I am required to report at the end of day, and added in text " I know how overwhelmed things are. I hope selling today helped." and left it at that.... he has not replied."

See, why do you keep adding that "he has not responded back"? You are trying to see if you get a positive response for you.

"I changed the taillight in my car (180) by myself.... wanted to let him know,"

Why do you always feel the need to "let him know" about everything? You changed the light, good for you. That's all.