I agree, you aren't there yet. I'm sure you think you think you are, and are probably wondering what I know about it anyway. Steve, you think you're ready to let go b/c you are so angry at her and the stitch. But when you really let go of her, you will let go of the control.
Maybe you don't see it, but you are fighting hard to hang on to those control panels you've had for a long time. But it won't work this time. Let's be realistic for a minute. You can tell her how OM won't be a part of your children's lives, but the truth is that if they divorce you and OM!s W, they are free to M each other. If that happens, he will be ithe step-dad to your kids....and he will definitely be in their lives. In your heart, you know that fact scares you to death. But. nevertheless, you cannot control it, even if you think you can. There have been other LBS to say the very same words to their WAS. But it still happened.....and then they realized there was nothing they could do to stop it
So, you can vent to us as much as you feel the need, that's fine......but it's also a pretty clear sign that you are still fighting it.
There is a place in Michele's DR book where she tells about the last resort after the LRT, but a lot of people seem to miss it. It is just a short paragraph out of the whole book. However, you have to be "ready" to really let go, or iit has no effect b/c your W will simply believe you're just reacting out of your anger.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
