Still Struggling and need help #3

[reachingHigher]

CB,

I can really relate. My H and I used to share one account on FB and he pressured and made fun of me till I got my own account in Nov. of 2011. That day he locked me out of his account. Soon afterwards he removed all pics of us. When I asked him, "why?" he said, "it's all about me now".

So...another way of saying what KD said above...sooooo MLC. It (almost) makes me smile now.

I've never made any headway with the FB thing. My H is moving back home but FB is still all about him and he won't allow any pics of me or us on it. It only alienated him to have me pressure him about it, although he now posts some events we attend together. He was reluctant to do that.

Just letting you know there may be no value in bringing it up in MC. Or let her lead with it. If she is set on that being an "identity" place for her, it really doesn't matter how you see it. She may need that "space" right now and it may be better to drop it and when she is ready she will let you in.

Btw, good job on detaching from tat-boy. That's a really hard thing to do. And some good positive actions from your W. Yay!