Hi T,

I was sad when I read your post. It's all so very sad.

I sure as hell am not some great well of advice, but I can at least say I feel for you, I really do.

I often ponder if my H is secretly making his escape plan - what would he say to me, what would I do?

I think what hurts is all the deception. If she feels strongly about leaving, then there is the door, you haven't tried to stop her. It is such an act of cowardice to do it behind your back.

Here's the thing... If your W wants to leave, then she is going to have to put on her big girl panties and deal with the consequences. There is a fine line between leaving the road home paved smooth and sheltering our MLCer from their own actions.

I think the time for sheltering is over.

We are here for you, ready to listen and to support you no matter what.
Thinking of you ~ TVS

Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me

~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."