Ditto what Spartan said. No way to keep OM away. I get it, I do. But, you can't. Blaaaa

Your kids are old enough to see what's going on.

Focus on who you want to be, feel the emotions and sit on a reaction. I even say now, "I need some time to process this, I'll get back to you." If it's something I know I'll be super emotional about, email email email.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D