You're acting completely on emotions and it's not going to get any better or easier until you figure out a way to calm down. This blows but acting with hatred and anger isn't going to help.
It's fine to be angry...as long as you use the anger as a shield. Flinging around $hit just to hurt the other person makes a mess and will get you no where. I think you need to stop communication unless it's about the kids until you guys can chill out a bit.
Originally Posted By: steveh27
I also mentioned that this OM will not be part of my kids life.
Nothing you can do that I know of. This is another thing you're going to have to let go of. You have absolutely no control of what your W does, who she sees, or where she takes the kids. All you control is how you act and how your kids see you. They're old enough and will figure things out on there own. Make sure you don't do anything to hurt their relationship with their mom, you'll only regret it in the end.
This stuff is extremely hard and hurts like hell. Being hateful will not make it easier or hurt less. Take some time for yourself and kids and let the emotions soften a little before talking with W. You'll get through this, just give it time. Nothing has to be decided today, tomorrow, or even this week.
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