Slowing to a Crawl

[BrightFuture]

I have the same issue with imagination. And I have a very good imagination, which makes it very difficult to separate it from the reality. Thanks goodness I’m not aware of any OW at this time, so I can only imagine the generic one. But, when H was trying to hook up with this Mexican girl, I admit that I woke up every morning with her image in my head. I immediately thought that I had the best years of his life with him and she is going to get an aging, broken men with poor health. So, she must be desperate or is trying to use him.

My GF also recommended me to watch “The Secret”. Linda, I don’t how it applies to your thoughts about this Russian Trump OW. Maybe if you think about her as of someone weak and miserable (this is why she needs a sugar daddy), you will diminish her in your eyes and she will stop being so important.

The hardest thing to get my head around was that even if he broke up with her, that does not mean coming back to me.

I hear you, Portia. I have the same thoughts. My H doesn’t have an OW at the moment, but he is not coming back. But, my sitch is different. I’m pretty sure that there was some EA starting at the time of BD, but apparently it didn’t go anywhere. Then he tried to hook up with this Mexican girl, and it didn’t go far either. So, I think he is still hoping to meet a woman of his dreams any time soon. Sometimes I think that if he would have OW already, it would speed up the whole thing. What he is looking for in a partner doesn’t exist. Unless he makes a drastic change in himself…

Portia, your SO might just see that the grass is not greener on the other side. Don’t be discouraged.