I imagine that each situation - at home, nearby or (like mine) far away - all have their challenges and their blessings. No contact can be good as I do not always have to keep up my PMA or be "on" all of the time. I can see how that can be very exhausting. The downside is that I have no clue what is going on with him and while this can be an upside as well, in my case I have trouble controlling my imagination. My imagination always seems to picture him having a rollicking good time without me with his new GF and family. I also have no idea if they have moved in with each other - lots can happen in two months. The advantage to having them in the house is at least you can keep slightly better tabs on where they might be.
You poor woman; I know exactly what you mean about controlling your imagination. I often am upset because of something my H is fooling around with his phone. I just KNOW, have myself convinced, that he is texting the Russian Tramp, but then he shows me a youtube or something that he was looking at. We need to block it out of our minds somehow, but how?
One of my friends at work recommended I watch a video called "The Secret." She says it's about the law of attraction, that we attract stuff into our lives. That positive happy people attract positive happy things and events, and miserable unhappy people attract miserable things. Have any of you ever heard of it? If it's true, I am attracting the Tramp, because I think about her every hour on the hour!!!!!
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The hardest thing to get my head around was that even if he broke up with her, that does not mean coming back to me.
This is not necessarily true Portia, don't give up. You two have a long happy history, once he gives up on that crazy woman, he might be back. And if not.....it's his loss.
hang in there, you're doing great! Linda