I’m so sorry to hear of the recent events. We all know going into this saving a MLC marriage thing that there are no guarantees. I’m sure you’ve prepared yourself for whatever happens… as much as anyone can anyway.

My only advice is to stay strong and resolute in your actions. Allow her to see that you are seriously done. No more hand holding and coddling the teen in crises. (I agree with RH’s post) Allow the Reality Stick to do its job. At this point it’s likely your best shot.

Would a physical separation be an option? Maybe then she would get to see life without you won’t be so great after all? Just tossin’ it out there.

You don’t need to have all the answers right now, you will know what to do and say as things play out. My thoughts and positive energy go with you buddy.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl